Areas of focus:

  • Individual Therapy

  • Relationship Counseling

  • Grief Counseling

 

 

 

 

Individual Therapy

​Some areas I have worked with in individual therapy:

  • Relational trauma (past, present and/or ongoing): ​early childhood trauma; being raised by a traumatized and/or abusive parent or parents; racial and cultural trauma; the trauma of being misgendered

  • Relationship patterns that are causing troubles: in partnerships, friendships, family systems

  • Experiences of disconnection from your body, feeling unsafe inside it, feeling like different parts of you are fighting inside; body image issues; feeling betrayed by your body

  • Depression, suicidality

  • Anxiety and panic

  • ​Identity and Selfhood:

    • Self-criticism and shame

    • Feeling an "in-between-ness" in your racial, cultural, gender, social or religious identity/ies that can make it feel complicated to reconcile all of the different parts of yourself​​​​

    • Experiences that impact how you feel in your body and in the world--due to: disability/ies, the aging process, shifts in gender/s identity/ies, gender transitioning, questioning sexualities and coming out, life cycle changes, existential crises and changes in belief system/s and/or values, illness and chronic pain

    • Reckoning with white supremacy, as a white and/or white + mixed race or mixed culture person: recognizing how white supremacy culture shows up in the world, how it shows up in you and your ancestors, and you want to do better

Relationship Counseling

I have worked with couples and with adult family dyads (siblings, adult parents and children). I am kink and poly-affirming in relationship work, though I have not yet worked with polycules in my practice.

Couples:

These are some reasons folx seek couples counseling:

  • You and your partner are triggering each other all the time, and you feel like your childhoods might have something to do with it

  • One partner wants more closeness to feel safe, the other wants more distance to feel safe, and this causes troubles

  • You wish you could express what you need to your partner, but instead you bury your feelings and hide your needs

  • When you feel vulnerable and want closeness, sometimes you express criticism or rage instead

  • You're trying to figure out whether or not you and your partner should stay together

  • You're willing to try and see if therapy might be able to help you sort it out

Family Dyads:

Some areas I've worked with:

  • Processing past trauma 

  • Addressing triggers and unhealthy relationship patterns

  • Working on setting boundaries

  • Having a space to express things that are difficult to say to each other outside of therapy

Grief Counseling

Grief and loss can come up as a result of or as part of a number of transitional experiences, even if positive changes--as well as:

  • Loss of relationships or changes in relationships due to illness, death, transition or endings

  • Traumatic loss of loved ones to suicide, or homicide: not having the opportunity to say goodbye can leave us with many unanswered questions and ongoing trauma

  • Pet loss: losing beloved animals can have an enormous 

    impact; oftentimes much deeper and more painful than losing a parent or other human loved one. This kind of loss is often not recognized in dominant culture as important. But it is, and the grief is real.